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6 Approaches To Exert Yourself Socially

There’s no denying, we live in a social world, one that can be difficult to manage for those who don’t look at ourselves as outgoing extroverts. If you feel uncomfortable in social environments, you may look at the people around you who appear to float through life effortlessly and wonder how they manage it.

Even if you’re not a spotlight-grabbing extrovert, you can find ways to overcome the discomfort you’re feeling in social or group situations. The more you exercise these strategies, the more you will begin to feel confident when presented with an uncomfortable social situation.

— Smile at people – People who are shy will often be mistaken for being unfriendly or standoffish, when in reality they are just uncertain about how to respond when encountering new people. They’re unsure what to say or how to act, as a result they stay quiet and distant, maybe looking away when people approach. This makes an undesirable first impression on others. It means you probably will have to work twice as hard to be able to win them over. A smile, astonishingly, goes a long way. Even if you don’t have all the right things to say, smiling at someone lets them recognize you’re pleased to meet them and you’re welcoming. Also try smiling more on the whole. When you make eye contact with a stranger, don’t immediately avert your eyes. Try smiling and most often the other person will probably smile right back, putting you both at ease.

— Make eye contact – Making eye contact with people goes together with smiling at them. If you’re self-conscious, your first instinct may well be to avert your eyes when you’re uncomfortable, but eye contact is an important part of creating a connection with another person. When you don’t look at the other person when speaking in conversation, it looks like you’re bored or uninterested in what they’re saying. When speaking with someone you ought to be looking at him or her directly in the eye while you’re speaking and while they are talking to you. Remember that there is a big difference between looking at someone in the eye, and staring at them. It’s okay to look away on occasion.

— Ask questions – If you’re not sure what to discuss with a new person, ask them questions with regards to themselves. Most folk enjoy talking about themselves and are flattered that you’re interested in getting to know them better. This is a good technique which will take the pressure off you having to think of things to say. Be sure to ask open-ended questions that aren’t too intrusive or personal so that the person you’re talking with will feel comfortable.

— Really pay attention – When you meet somebody do your best to remember their name for future encounters. People will feel flattered that you remembered their name and details about them when you cross paths. There are usually little tricks you’ll be able to learn to be able to remember names along with other details. Associating a name with an object or maybe a scene, for example, makes it much easier to recall.

— Don’t give up – When you first test these strategies, you may well still feel uncomfortable. That’s fine! It is going to take time and also practice before this begins to feel natural, but as time passes it will certainly seem simpler to interact with people the more you consciously adjust your approach. Like a great deal in life, the more we practice the better it becomes – and so the better we get at it.

— Consider another approach – Hypnosis has been extremely effective in aiding people who struggle in social situations and can help them feel more at ease and comfortable. For those affected by social anxiety, or social phobia, hypno-therapy is an excellent treatment option.

Peter Field is one of the foremost British hypno-psychotherapists and Fellow of the Royal Society of Health. Click for information on his hypnotherapy Birmingham and London practices. His exclusive range of self-hypnosis downloads are now available.

What Is Love?

By Paul A Philips

One of the most googled questions ever is “What is love?” So, in view of its popularity alone I felt compelled to look into this. I hope that those reading my response will get some insights. An insight is something you get which allows you to achieve something that could not have been achieved had it not been for that insight.

So, here’s my answer to that very pertinent question ‘what is love?’ Here are the insights: What I have gained from learning about love.

Love is…

1 Having a deep and genuine love for yourself. How do you expect the cycle of love to come back on you when you haven’t began with a real deep and genuine love, compassion and acceptance for yourself?

2 An innate love or natural urge towards partnership; caring for one’s spouse, family and children…

3 An innate love towards groups; being in teams and teamwork.

4 An innate love of the human race. A natural want to care for cultures, communities, preserve populations… etc.

5 An innate love and natural instinctive urge to want to care for the life on this planet.

6 An innate love for Mother Earth; the environment…

7 Having an innate love for all things spiritual.

8 An innate love for God, Goddess, All-There-Is. (I have written it in this form to avoid a narrow interpretation). Notice if you turn 8 at right angles it becomes: ∞ which is infinity!

Love means accepting a loved one for the way they are or the way they are not. -For me, this is the single most effective insight I have ever gained and learned about love.

For further insight it is also very effective to know what love is not

Love is NOT:

Thinking the person you love is like the car you have, or the clothes you’re wearing. That is, love is not possession.

Love is not belongingness, feelings, emotions, chemistry or domination… All these things can only be the effects of love. Tie these things in with the false understanding they are love then this could lead to confusion or victimhood drama. Learn to discern what love actually is when these things show up in your life.

So, above all, I would say, do realize that love is something that we do not understand.

I indeed hope that this all to brief little tour through love has allowed you the reader to get some useful insights.

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Overcoming Victim Consciousness: The Power Lies Within You!

By Paul A Philips

For generation upon generation the human race has been mislead into thinking that cause and effect in life over many different things is something external to them and in doing so have become victims through their own making: Victims because they have designated the responsibility and power of cause and effect over things to someone or some other external source.

How do you expect to be effective in life if you think that the circumstances are outside of your control..?

To overcome the pains and frustrations of victimhood, to take control of their lives or rightful ownership, humans must realize that responsibility is something to be embraced, not shrugged. Thus, the power lies within you and it is from this the shift from ‘victim’ to ‘victor’ will result.

Here are some examples to explain.

The medical/pharmaceutical establishment has intervened in human health to such an extent that many only see the destiny of their wellbeing in the hands of a doctor… Truth is, doctors know a lot about illness but because they have had little training in nutrition or naturopathy know far less than many people realise when it comes to health and well-being.

The solution is to take responsibility for your health. Health and wellbeing exists in making sure you get yourself good nutrition, have an effective outlook on life, exercise and avoid toxicity.

In many religions the human race has been misleading into thinking that God is something external to them: the “Big Boss in the sky” concept comes up a lot. How can people blindly accept the idea that this unimaginably big God created them as tiny, tiny creatures then demands that they worship Him and gets angry and jealous along the way..? If this is the case then God has quite an ego problem! The “Big Boss in the sky” concept is a deception. It has been manufactured to mind control and manipulate people into passivity for power; profit and political gain.

Who you really are is an extension of God, Goddess, All-There-Is, so the power to make things manifest comes from within you.

Whether through ignorance, apathy, deception or laziness… the human race has allowed uncaring, highly corrupt and sometimes even psychotic individuals to run their political affairs. To take back our rightful ownership of this planet certain people are needed look into political affairs and assert themselves as genuine, caring, independent individuals, separate to the corrupt major political parties currently running for office…

This will take time to go into effect but as increasing numbers of successful independent candidates form, the more effective they will be at expressing the real voice of We-the-people united in a common humane cause.

On similar lines with politics, the lawmakers have made certain rules and regulations favouring the rich and powerful with their agendas receiving few responses in the way of protest from the people at large… Again We-the-people need to assert laws based what is decent, fair and honest.

Basically, in education, young people have been brought up and trained to fit into the boxes made for them by the system: After leaving the system, like a cog-in-the-wheel they will fit into and function in one of these boxes designed to make money for the corporate driven greed machine…

Who you really are is an ‘individual.’ When someone or something like the education system programmes you to become a cog-in-the-wheel you lose your power by not being able to think, feel and be yourself. Thus you become a victim. Indeed the solution is to escape; think, feel and be yourself.

Then there’s those who have been mislead into believing that ET’s will rescue the human race and their sinking ship planet Earth. One of the hallmarks of a victims is that they think they will be rescued. True, the people and the planet need serious attention but ultimately only we can recue ourselves and Mother Earth…

In summary

Like all the above circumstances, the shift from victim to victor starts with the realization that the power lies within you.

If you liked reading this article then go to http://www.NewParadigm.ws for more related articles including a free download PDF. NewParadigm is a portal to transformation, consciousness, spirituality, mind, body, health, alternative media and much more… Hosted by Paul A Philips. Once again the link is: http://www.newparadigm.ws/

Simple Methods To Prepare Your Mind For The Law of Attraction

The science behind the law of attraction got a lot more attention within the last couple of years. Men and women begin to understand more and more that they themselves are responsible for the things taking place in their lives, all because of movies like “The Secret”. There isn’t any absolute certainty the law of attraction work, regardless of the thousands of books written about the subject no one is 100% sure. The theory states that your thoughts are like a magnet which attracts everything it thinks about. Your thoughts, emotions and visions all function together to attract the things you feel, dream and think about. The better you research the law of attraction the better you will understand that this world outside is a reflection of your inside world.

This could be difficult to understand initially, specifically if you, like 99.99% of the world’s population, have been raised to respond to outside circumstances. Every person’s mind were conditioned since childhood about how the outside world doesn’t have any basic cause and it affects the inside world. We were all taught to think a certain way with our conscious mind; little do people realise that it’s actually their subconscious mind that have control of their lives. When studying the law of attraction techniques, always remember that reading is simply not enough and action is essential for long lasting change.

Research have revealed that your subconscious mind can handle 1000s of tasks simultaneously but your conscious mind can only handle one task at any given time. A teenager taking driving lessons can be used as an excellent example. A person who learns to drive for the first time can only focus on only changing gears, steering, stepping on the gas or braking at a time. You had to drive a car for hours before your subconscious mind took over several of the tasks which means you could do them naturally. In the same manner your subconscious picked up on how you thought, felt and did things since childhood and these habits still rule your life right now. Being aware of what exactly is the cause of our current believes, we have the power to change our feelings, visions and thoughts for a much better life.

You know what the law of attraction means, but do you really understand the law of attraction? The origins of the law of attraction go more deeply into your subconscious than what you may think. You can’t basically just watch a film or read an ebook and think your life will change, you’ll want to take action each day to print the brand new believes into the subconscious. Start to do everything within your power to understand everything you can about the law of attraction, it’s that important. Listed below are 3 ways that can help you with understanding this subject better;

1. Books – Bits and pieces about the law of attraction can be found in lots of books, not one book has all of the answers for all people. The more you read the more it will start making sense. It’s like building a puzzle. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill is most likely where you would want to start your reading. Genie Within by Harry W. Carpenter is yet another superb but less known book. Finding out how to take control of your subconscious mind can be like having your own personal genie.

2. Practise daily – You will need to train your mind daily to accept the ideas of the law of attraction. Start to see the things you do want in your life and look past the things you do not want. Take notice of positive thoughts and feelings and give no attention to negative or bad thoughts and feelings. You have to be consistent, all day, every day.

3. Be patient – Changes will not happen instantly, if only it did, but it will not.Time is needed for your unconscious mind to accept the new thoughts and believes. Consistency will make sure you see results.

The law of attraction is after all a law. This suggests it’s a guarantee, the same as gravity guarantees you to have weight on the earth. Isn’t that wonderful news? Think and feel a certain way all throughout your day and you will have guaranteed success.

Follow Your Dreams

By Jessica Rector

I conducted two workshops at the PTA Leadership Summit in Dallas. After my first session, an attendee came up and talked to me. She said she had a dream, she just didn’t know what it was.

She was entering a new phase in her life, in her early thirties, and just settling in after a divorce, and she wanted to know how to discover her dream…her passion. She didn’t know where to start.

So many of us find ourselves in that same situation. We don’t know where to start. Instead of asking questions, like my attendee, you quickly become overwhelmed and decide to give up. It’s so easy to do. With being pulled in so many directions, you don’t have the time, energy, or patience to take it slowly or one step at a time. You want it yesterday. But dreams don’t happen like that. They take time to discover and years to develop.

That same night, I was taking a little “me” time and watching America’s Got Talent. I love watching people’s dreams come true. It was emotional for me…the suspense built as the judges used their words wisely keeping you guessing if the contestants were advancing. I watched as they broke the news to the contestants. An older comedian, a 39-year-old female singer who says it’s her “last chance,” and an opera singer who just wanted to be accepted by others, all received good news. As each of them heard, “You’re going to New York City and Radio City Music Hall,” tears came to my eyes.

Maybe their dreams didn’t happen in the time or the way they planned, but life never does. Their dreams are coming true. Woo HOO! THEIR DREAMS ARE COMING TRUE!

The older comedian said, “Just because I’m 53 doesn’t mean I’ve given up on my dream.” No matter how old you are, you still want to turn your dream into reality. So don’t wait any longer. You’re not too old. You’re not too overweight. You’re not too busy. You’re not too ____________ (fill in the blank).

You are perfect just the way you are to start pursuing your dream. Maybe you don’t know the answers. Maybe you don’t know what questions to ask. So often when this happens, we throw in the towel and give up. We tell ourselves we aren’t worth it, it wouldn’t happen anyways, or it’s just too late. All of those things we tell ourselves are just not true. We want our dreams to happen. We can see them, taste them, and feel them. But we just don’t know the first step to take.

Just start. Start somewhere. Start anywhere. Start by asking some questions or doing research. Be patience and learn to take it slowly. You have all the time you need, but just start. You will eventually make your way to the answers. Don’t give up. You never know, maybe right around the corner your dreams will become your reality.

As a single mom and founder of The Single Mom Movement, Jessica Rector knows how single moms are overwhelmed, exhausted, and stressed. With targeted private coaching, programs, and a school, she connects single moms to happiness, fulfillment, and empowerment by using her proven strategies. Clients praise Jessica for them experiencing massive results after one session.

Outside Your Comfort Zone

By Jessica Rector

Are you destined for greatness? Absolutely. So what’s holding you back? You’re familiar with where you are now. It’s comfortable, yet you aren’t really where you’re supposed to be. You’re not doing what you’re supposed to be doing. You’re not reaching the people who need you most.

I’m a HUGE proponent of stepping outside your comfort zone. I’ve been fortunate to do some fun and exciting things when I’ve done it. I’ve studied abroad in Norway and volunteered in Africa. I’ve gone parasailing, skydiving, dog sledding and shark diving. None of those compared to what I did this past week.

I went to a conference for four days and three nights, and I left my baby (about 11 months old) at home. Yes, that was harder than going to a third world country and jumping out of a plane. Why? His voice is the first sound I hear every morning, and as a single mom I’m the only one who puts him to sleep at night. I’ve been to about five or six conferences this year, but each time, my son came with me. This time he didn’t.

I was attending a mindset retreat. When I made the decision to leave him at home in the care of my sister and mom, I didn’t know if it would help or hurt me…would I be missing him so much that I wouldn’t be focused or would I still be able to concentrate more since I wouldn’t be distracted?

I always loved the Garth Brooks song, “Standing Outside the Fire.” To me, it’s about stepping outside your comfort zone. You are merely surviving if you aren’t standing outside the fire. If you choose to remain inside where it’s comfie, you will never truly experience what life has to offer.

Although I was scared, this was an opportunity, so I leapt. He had a fever ranging from 102.9 to 104.9 in the two days prior to my leaving, so I was even more nervous departing when he didn’t feel good. The morning I left, his temperature was just over 100, but I knew he was in great hands.

On the plane, I fell asleep. A baby sitting across the aisle and back a row cried several times. I kept waking up thinking for a brief moment it was my son. I am definitely a mama…calling every couple of hours to check on him–how’s his temperature, what’s he eating, how is he sleeping? As I went to sleep the first night, I was okay. It was incredibly strange waking up the next morning and not hearing him first thing, but I was eager for the conference, what it would hold, and meeting new people.

That day went by quickly. However, every time I called for him, he was sleeping. Emotionally I felt okay, because his temperature was going down. The following day was rough. I woke up in a great mood, but when the conference host mentioned the homework from the previous day, it hit me. I thought about how having a baby prepared me for the assignment, and I broke down thinking about my son.

Then the water works came and came and came. They just wouldn’t stop. Just the mere thought of him produced enough water to hydrate 1,000 people in a desert. Lucky for me, the conference supplied tissue. During the first break, I called my mom who put him “on the phone.” So just “talking” to him (as much as you can really talk to an 11-month-old) made me feel so much better. I was missing him miserably…not being able to hold, kiss, hug, or even touch him was getting to me. I missed the sound of his voice, his laughter, and his smile. After our phone conversation, I felt so much better.

The last day came and went fast, and I couldn’t get home quickly enough to see him. I opened the door, and he turned to see me running toward him. It took a minute for it to register who I was. Then he gave me a HUGE smile. I picked him up, kissing and hugging him. I just wanted to hold and cuddle with him. He let me for a short while. Then in typical fashion, he got restless and wanted down.

As I watched him make his way across the room, my heart filled up. I had my boy in my sights and able to love on him. My heart ached the third day, and I was an emotional wreck. I also knew stepping outside my comfort zone was needed…no matter how hard it is. That’s when I need to do it the most. It builds strength, and continually challenging myself allows me to grow.

You never really know what you can achieve unless you get out of your comfort zone. It’s hard. Our comfort zones are comfie, routine, and habitual. But the only way to true GREATNESS can only happen when you step outside your comfort zone. Don’t hesitate.

You might be scared. Take a small step. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. When you were a child, riding a bike seemed so difficult. You probably started with training wheels. You had to get your balance and increase your self-confidence. The first time without training wheels, you were probably wobbly. You may have even fallen. Once you rode over and over, it became second nature to you. You could have done it at any time without fear.

Take a small step–put on your training wheels if needed. Just do it. Then it will be something you continually want to do, because you’ll experience GREATNESS! So, the harder it is, the more it’s saying you NEED to do it! So take a leap and jump outside your comfort zone. It may be the best decision you’ll ever make.

As a single mom and founder of The Single Mom Movement, Jessica Rector knows how single moms are overwhelmed, exhausted, and stressed. With targeted private coaching, programs, and a school, she connects single moms to happiness, fulfillment, and empowerment by using her proven strategies. Clients praise Jessica for them experiencing massive results after one session.

How To Be An Alpha Male And Get the Girl Of Your Dreams

By John Stone

It is no secret that every single man is motivated by a beautiful woman. Beautiful women is what makes the world function. One of the biggest motivators for men is women, which is why so many men aspire to acquire things that will attract a beautiful women. Contrary to popular belief, you really don’t need to have a fancy car or expensive clothes, or strikingly good looks in order to attract a beautiful woman. There is much more you can do that will work in your favor in order to get the girl of your dreams.

Personalty is key as well, and one of the biggest things you can do is work on yourself first. Focus on improving yourself, and girls will be attracted to you. If you focus on improving your own appearance, you will increase your confidence. No matter how attractive or unattractive you may think you are now, anyone can see improvement with a few easy steps. Once you’ve focused on improving your looks that best you can, you need to focus on improving your personality. This is not to say that you need to change who you are or try to pretend to be someone you are not. What this means it that you need to focus on self improvement on all levels. Reach out, try new hobbies, volunteer, do something you’ve never done before. By doing things you’ve never done before you may end up meeting a girl you’ve never even imagined.

When you have yourself in a situation where you are confident, now you can get into more of the details on attracting women. Be sure to dress the part, smell nice, and give off the vibe that you are sure of yourself. Women are attracted to a guy with confidence more than anything. Be unique too. Every guy in the world uses the same compliments, same pickup lines, and same strategies as every other guy out there. Be unique, pickup a good book that will teach you self improvement and how to meet and attract beautiful women.

There are a lot of good books out there for learning how to attract a beautiful woman, many will outline steps and guidelines of exactly what you have to do. You need to focus on yourself first, and then follow some easy steps and you’ll soon become much more attractive to women than you ever realized possible.

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Personal Development Made Easier With These Ideas

By Wendy Miller

Become a healthier and happier person by working on yourself. Develop goals of personal development, stick to them and see them manifest in your life in positive ways. Working on yourself allows relationships to deepen, doors to open, and you can gain a more positive outlook on life in general. Follow these tips to develop yourself in a positive manner.

The most critical way to improve your mental outlook and sense of purpose is to believe in something larger than yourself. Search for something (a cause, a purpose, a religion, etc.) that moves you. You must believe in this intrinsic merits of this cause in themselves; if you pursue it simply for your own benefit, you will be disappointed. Find something you believe in and immerse yourself in it.

A great self help tip that can help you turn your life around is to start communicating with people that you trust and people that support you. Having people around that can listen to you and be there for you can be a great tool in climbing out of a depression.

Don’t just fill your mind with facts. It’s one thing to learn the steps to a process, and entirely another to feel them as they become integrated into your being. An idea must sit in your mind and undergo digestion and analytical thought before you can benefit fully from the information you have taken in.

Identify your current strengths before you try to change your perceived weaknesses. A key component of personal development is having a true understanding of your whole self. Unfortunately, personal development often focuses only on weaknesses. Often, improving an already developed strength may be more helpful to achieving your long-term goals.

Learn to tolerate other peoples’ discomfort with the word no. Everyone needs to say no to somethings. Otherwise, the other people in our lives will take as much of our time and resources as we have to give them. When someone hears no and reacts negatively, it’s more about them than you. If they persist, ask why they expect you to say no to your own family, health, goals, etc. just so you can say yes to them. Only say yes when it’s something you truly want.

Tell other people positive things. If you are kind to other people, you will be kind to yourself.

Consult a hairdresser! There are several aspects of conveying the image you need to portray either in your home life or at work. All the fancy clothing in the world won’t make up for a bad haircut or style. Hairdressers are trained to give you the cut and style that you need to provide the visual assurance others need to conclude you are capable.

Concentrate on getting through one day at a time. Sometimes, in the very beginning of trying to stop a bad habit or to implement better behavior we have to think in even smaller time increments. Very few people can make big changes all at once and be one-hundred percent successful.

Before you allow yourself to react in anger, ask yourself this: What is the worst possible consequence that could arise from giving in to my anger? More often than not, you will find that the worst possible outcome – violence, legal problems, jail- is simply not worth the brief release of giving in to your temper.

Setting goals that are clear is really going to help you in many aspects of your life. If you can provide your brain with simple and specific goals to reach, you will find them easier to accomplish. Your brain will better be able to accomplish helping you reach these goals if you keep them very specific.

Coaching yourself is great, however, listening to yourself is even greater. Self-analysis is an important part of personal development as long as you are willing to be judiciously critical and an eager respondent. Learning from your mistakes and faults is almost as important as how you act on that knowledge.

As you can see, these tips are easily included in your everyday life. Learning them takes little time out of your day and just a bit of practice. As you progress, you will find that life seems a little brighter, relationships seem easier and the world around you will seem a little more inviting.

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